When I was at conference this year I shared with the ladies 2 situations about domestic violence that was in homes.
One was a home filled with meth and addiction. A very sad situation that even when there was intervention the cycle continued.
The second was about a couple who loved God with all their heart. They stood on a stage in front of church members who loved them and got engaged, then had a wedding filled with ministers and loved ones. They loved each other with all their BROKEN hearts. Anger, bad self images, jealousy, confusion, fear and strife grew stronger than their faith and love. Verbal, Emotional and Physical violence became a habit. Anywhere from throwing things to threats and manhandling.
Don’t think this only happens in low income, drug addicts, and “non believers” homes.
This couple didn’t survive. They now both thrive in their own walks and God has taken their broken hearts 💔 and mended them in His way and timing.
Don’t wait until it gets to the point of breaking apart what you have or who you are. Get help, reach out!
Most of all safety is your first step. Then get help from Godly men and women who will speak truth, give accountability and LOVE beyond the shock factor and LOVE you through your brokenness to a mended heart ❤️.
It doesn’t have to end in divorce but if it does don’t you walk around in shame like I did for so long.
God still will mend God will still love God will still forgive
In today’s world and all that’s going on we have to take time to disconnect so that we can connect. We need to disconnect with media, news and any and all negativity around us.
I feel the most relaxed and peaceful when I turn all the noise off and connect with nature. I will sit outside by A fire pit and connect with God. Sometimes I will get up early in the morning and light an old fashion lantern so that I can connect with peace before I start my day.
I pray that each of you reading this will take a moment each day to connect. Connect with God, connect with your true self and connect with your loved ones around you.
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Courage There are so many situations in our lives that take courage. I think one of the most courageous moments in my life was leaving the man I loved more than life itself. I married in 2016 and shortly after our wedding it became apparent that we had a toxic relationship situation. The very first heated argument we had became physical real fast. I have to say that I loved him and I believe he loved me. I believe people love out of their own hurts and what they know. I however didn’t love myself enough to see that love wasn’t enough. I stayed and did this crazy cycle we had going on for 11 months. A month before our anniversary things escalated beyond anything I could imagine. I then realized that this was not only destroying me, but him and his ministry. Yes I said ministry. It takes a lot of courage to tell this story but I know God wants it told. So many behind church doors need the courage to make a change and get help. So I am sharing my story. So one month from our anniversary, I put on my courage and drove away leaving him standing there crying and saying once again how sorry he was. I believe he truly meant that. However he knew he went too far, I knew he went too far. I thought in my heart as I drove to Oklahoma to be with my children, this will be all right. I thought we will get help. I wanted to be somewhere I felt safe and get help for each of us.
Over the weeks and months to come I had to have courage to get out of bed and face the day knowing things were not going to be all right. I started my cleaning business here in Oklahoma as I kept hoping for a miracle. God blessed it so much that I was full time in 3 months. Long story short is, we divorced. He met another woman and life goes on. Now I walk in the courage to hold my head high and know God has great Big plans for CASSIE! I have made some pretty big decisions lately that has taken a lot of courage. If you keep following me here on Instagram or my blog, you will get to read all about them.
““Be strong. Take courage. Don’t be intimidated. Don’t give them a second thought because GOD, your God, is striding ahead of you. He’s right there with you. He won’t let you down; he won’t leave you.””Deuteronomy 31:6 MSG Dream Catcher 3:20Eph 3:20 Cassie Gilman
The word craft has a few meanings. The one I love the most is the fact that it means to exercise a skill of making something.
So today I choose to craft my life into the one I dream of.
I have crafted my life from being a victim of domestic violence, divorce, financial ruins to one of success.
God has given me the ability to craft my life according to His word. He says in His word that His plans are for good, not evil, Jeremiah 29:11. It is up to me to follow His plans and walk away from evil and destruction.
God gave me the craft of creating my own cleaning business. Through this craft and His grace, I have went from bankruptcy to success. I have been able to pay off what debt was left, go on vacation, help others and enjoy life. There are more exciting things happening as well. Maybe those will be shared here in the near future. Wink wink 😉
I will continue to craft my life, one dream, one goal and one step at a time.
I believe you can also craft your life according to His plans for you.
Sitting here looking at my memories on Facebook. Wow Gods brought me a long ways since 2017. I had planned a trip down to Texas to see my husband, in hopes of reconciliation of some kind. Then when the hurricane hit and flooded Houston it caused a shortage on fuel down there. I was not able to go. It sent things into another whirlwind of anger and strife. My head was spinning with grief and confusion.
I remember back to this season of my life. Many mornings, nights or maybe even just randomly in the middle of the day, being on my face crying so hard. I was grieving so hard that I didn’t even recognize my own voice or cries. It scared the heck out of me. I thought this grief would never end. There were moments I literally thought I was going to die from it.
Though my marriage was not restored, CASSIE was!
The grief didn’t stay. The tears didn’t stay. Now I still have moments of sadness and tears but nothing like the season I was in 3 years ago.
I have learned to be well ME!!!
I am still finding my way and BECOMING the CASSIE God created me to be.
It’s exciting It can be scary lol but It’s exciting
There are things happening that are great big BRAVE things in my life. I can’t wait to share them as they take place.
But most of all, the fact I didn’t quit is a great big BRAVE in my life.
Whatever your facing today, this time next year will not look the same.
Hold on to Gods love
Cry if you need to Scream out if you need to
BUT DO NOT LET GO OF HOPE
Dream Catcher 3:20 Inspiring others to catch their dream and run with it! IF YOU CAN CATCH IT YOU CAN DO IT!!