Tag Archives: Valentines

Love Is Not WAM

 True love is when you care about someone else’s needs more than you do your own.  

“I pray for you more than I do myself” Diary Of The Mad Black Woman

Love is not WAM. What About Me?

It has taken me a long time to know what real love is. I was more concerned with feeling loved and getting shown love than showing it!  

I found out what love is!  It is God! It is John 3:16 

John 3:16 God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him won’t perish but will have eternal life. 

I was watching Wynonna one day on a show and the power of God came into my apartment and the Love of God. I realized that so many selfish and crazy choices I had made was me looking for love. I am so grateful He has shown me and continues to show me through His grace and those He has placed in my life for me to love. 
Did you know this “Love Holiday” that we all get so worked up about because we are not receiving flowers or candy or have a “Valentine” was originated in honor of a St Valentine? I did a study on the history of this Holiday. There are many encounters and each one I read was a selfless story of a man who did acts of kidneys and shared Gods love in “secret”. One encounter I read said that he was beheaded for marrying Christian Couples. Back during these ages the Roman Catholic Church and the Christian Church were enemies. 

Now that you think about Valentines the “Love” Holiday in this manner and see that it was in honor of a selfless love based on Gods love, mayb we can decide to be a Valentine!


So let’s make this Valentines a true Love Holiday and carry it into everyday life. No more WAM!  
Dream Catcher 3:20 

Cassie Gilman 

Happily Ever After?

How many of you are waiting on Mr. Right or Mrs. Right to live Happily Ever After?

I know that for girls we begin this dream when we get our first doll, doll house and kitchen sets. We play dress up and plan our weddings. We dream of that day we are just like those fairy tales we watch on the Disney Movies.

We grow into a teenage girl who dreams of her first kiss. We begin to watch more adult movies and read books that tell of romance and adult fairy tales.

We grow into adults who read romance novels and become addicted to Hallmark Movies and Wedding Reality shows.

We have this idea that when we have what we have dreamed about all these years we will truly be “Living Happily Ever After”

In my past I found that trying to grab onto this dream I lost a lot of who God called me to be. I waited on dreams that He put into me. I thought with out that “Happily Ever After” I couldn’t have any of the rest of it.

Has anyone watched the Lifetime movies or Roseane or even Reba? Life brings heartache, loss and real life situations to deal with. Let’s say you achieve Happily Ever After and you wake up one day and your spouce is gone. Out the door went your happy and all your dreams, if your happy was all in that one dream.

We are fed we are not complete with out that Happily Ever After in our lives.
When reality is if we are not complete in Him first we can never have that. Not as a single or married person.

Colossians 2:10 So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.

We have got to be filled with His joy in our lives. If we don’t have His joy then when things don’t go as planned we lose that false sense of joy. What happens when you wake up one day at 40 and you have had two failed marriages? You find yourself with an empty nest? You had best know what true Happily Ever After is!

God is your Happily Ever After!

Romans 15:13 I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Do I still believe God has someone hand picked for you and for me? ABSOLUTELY. I believe when we find ourselves so full of Him and engrossed in all He has for us, we will run smack dab into them. The joy and love of God we each have will be so much that it covers all the Roseane moments. The hurts and disappointments that can come our way can be covered with Gods Grace, Love, and Joy.

The only way to be fulfilled and live your life and have Happily Ever After begins in John 3:16

John 3:16 “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.

Once you accept this LOVE then you are on the road. Next step is to believe that God has great plans for you. To not give up on All and Who He has for you.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

Then you ask God what dreams He has for YOU! In fulfilling those dreams you will be overflowing with Happy! That’s what you want to have to offer to your Prince Charming or Princess!!

Ephesians 3:20 -21 God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.Glory to God in the church!Glory to God in the Messiah, in Jesus!Glory down all the generations!Glory through all millennia! Oh, yes!

Let God become your Happily Ever After!!!


When you are Happy in Him and who you are in Him, the rest of your dreams will be icing on the cake.

Dream Catcher 3:20
Cassie Gilman